Tantrums & Talking it Out: Parenting Tips That Save the Party (and Your Sanity)

Have you ever planned a birthday party and found yourself negotiating with a screaming toddler over how he or she should behave at the party —you’re not alone. As fun as parties are, they come with high emotions, overstimulation, and, yes, meltdowns.

At Kidz Party Store, we believe parenting isn't just about throwing beautiful parties—it's about creating meaningful moments. That’s why we love parenting books like How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish. Because even the best party needs a calm, connected parent behind it. Anyway these principles should last beyond the events for a long time to come.

Here’s what we learned—and how it might just help you get through party planning with less stress (for you and your little one).

Talk So They’ll Listen: Communication Tips Every Young Parent Needs

If you’ve ever said, “I’ve told you five times already!” or “Why won’t they just listen?”—you’re not alone. One of the biggest struggles young parents face is communication. Whether your child is 2 or 12, getting through to them can feel like a battle.

That’s why How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish is a game-changer. This parenting classic doesn’t just offer tips—it transforms the way we connect with our kids.

Here are 5 takeaways young parents can start using today:

1. Feelings First, Fix Later

Young children often have big emotions they can’t fully explain. Instead of jumping in with logic or solutions, Faber and Mazlish suggest something simple but powerful: acknowledge the feeling.

Instead of:

“There’s no need to cry!”

Try:

“You’re really upset that your block tower fell. That’s frustrating.”

When kids feel understood, they calm down faster—and become more open to problem-solving.

2. Give Choices, Not Commands

Nobody likes being bossed around—not even toddlers. Constant commands can lead to resistance. Instead, give your child some control with limited choices.

Instead of:

“Put your shoes on now!”

Try:

“Do you want to wear your blue shoes or your red ones?”

It’s still your agenda, but they feel empowered—and that means fewer battles.

3. Name the Problem, Not the Person

It’s tempting to say, “You’re being naughty,” when your child acts out. But labelling the child can hurt their self-image. Faber and Mazlish encourage parents to describe the problem instead of attacking character.

Instead of:

“You’re so messy!”

Try:

“I see toys all over the floor. They need to be put back before we can head out.”

This keeps your child’s dignity intact—and invites cooperation.

4. Use Words That Invite Cooperation

How we speak matters. Commands often lead to resistance, but descriptive language and gentle reminders work better.

Instead of:

“Stop slamming the door!”

Try:

“The door needs to close quietly so it doesn’t hurt anyone’s ears.”

You’re still correcting, but in a way that feels respectful rather than confrontational.

5. Listen Without Lecturing

When your child is upset, resist the urge to correct, fix, or teach right away. Sometimes, the best thing you can do is just be quiet and listen.

Nod. Say “mmm” or “I see.” Give them space to express. You’d be surprised how often kids work through their own feelings when they feel safe to talk.

Final Thoughts: Communication Is Connection

Whether you're prepping for your little one's first birthday or throwing a dinosaur bash for a roaring 5-year-old, remember this: parties are about connection, not perfection. And the way we talk to our kids can make all the difference—not just during the celebration, but every day.

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